You know exactly what we’re talking about. It’s 2 a.m. You’re Facebook stalking, only to find that your one-true-love has fallen for a skinnier woman. All you really want to do is eat carrots for a few months to get that revenge bod.
Hopefully you wouldn’t really do that.
(Sorry, Khloé Kardashian. We can’t support Revenge Body.) You’re worth way more than that, friend.
To be clear, there’s nothing wrong with eating healthier and getting in shape. Looking out for your own best interests is a good thing. But doing so because someone pissed you off is the worst reason imaginable. Health, mental wellbeing and a desire to make positive changes in your life are all good reasons to set new goals for your body. Getting revenge on someone else is not.
Revenge Body is not the real goal.
In shows like Revenge Body, the bottom line is the number on the scale and outward appearance. They claim change is about body, mind and soul, but it isn’t about that at all. It’s about finding a quick fix. Your goal should be to look inward to find true happiness and self-love.
In addition, restricting your eating and working out until you toss your cookies is never productive. I can personally tell you that getting into the habit of restricted eating along with multiple workouts a day led me straight to a battle with exercise bulimia in my 20’s. Not only did I nearly stop menstruating for several months, it wreaked havoc on my health. I went to treatment not once, but twice, and lost a great deal of time that I should have been enjoying. Luckily, that was years ago and I’ve long since moved on.
The media doesn’t care about your health.
Anytime you see the media glorify a disturbing concept like this, you’ve got to remember that what you see isn’t meant for your health and wellbeing. It’s meant to sell a story that gets ratings. Revenge isn’t a concept you should ever celebrate in your life. Instead, you should spend times of heartbreak bettering yourself for yourself. Not for someone else.
If you’re that upset, you need to open up to your support network, and, if it becomes serious, consider therapy. There are a lot of healthy ways to move past hurt through communication, companionship and self-improvement.
Your body is never bad. It is always beautiful.
In addition, remember that your body is never “bad.” As we always say, all bodies are beautiful. If a romantic partner or close friend isn’t supportive of you, they shouldn’t be in your life. They need to go out like yesterday’s trash.
So no, we aren’t watching Revenge Body. We don’t support revenge bodies. There is no such thing in our world. We love our bodies just as they are. Curves included. And yes, we’ll write more about this soon.
Do you have a story about why you despise revenge bodies? Share your story with us.
