Never Stop Dating Your Spouse

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I don’t think you ever should stop dating your husband.

Do you know everything there is to know about the person you are married to? You probably already know the everyday things, like each other’s favorite foods. But what about the more in-depth things?

My husband and I are still finding out things about each other; most recently, our respective credit scores. Somehow, we’d never gotten around to talking about that in almost four years of marriage.

My husband and I are in our early 30s with no children. For me, it’s important to date because my husband’s job is a tad stressful and chaotic. He is a truck driver and twice a week he goes to the Bay Area to pick up loads and bring them back here to Los Angeles, where we live. It’s not an easy job but, someone has to do it right. He was already doing this kind of work when I met him, but on the East Coast.

I always tell my girlfriends to make time for their significant others because otherwise life may get in the way. 

Hopefully, you and your husband will have similar interests.

While you don’t have to like all the same things, finding a common interest is a great start. For us, we share a love of good food, music and movies. Yet we have our own interests too; I love musicals and he loves his game console.

Date night guide

If you feel like you are in a rut, shake it up. Look around your neighborhood or in the events page on Facebook see what is out there to do. 

Take a cooking or dance class, attend a wine tasting or hit a club. It’s important not to forget why the two of you fell in love, especially when there are so many people out there who are single (or about to be). It was always my intention to keep right on dating my husband long after we married. And I take pictures wherever we go so we will have these memories to look back on. He is not a fan of posing, but he is a very good sport. 

Find that spark and don’t take your spouse for granted.

I love having a husband. I know I am still young, but I have seen so many couples who can’t even enjoy a meal together because they have lost the ability to have a conversation with each other. I find that sad. 

I didn’t grow up with a good example of a happy marriage to follow, so for me, spending quality time and having daily conversation with my spouse is extremely important. I value our daily talks very much. Even the random chit chat is so fun! I love it when he tells me what he sees on the road and I love to tell him what I see while I’m out running errands. That is seriously the best. 

I’m with my husband for better or for worse. Keeping our marriage exciting is part of making it better. But my last piece of advice is this: Don’t compare your marriage to anyone else’s. No two are alike.


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